daughter: a female child or person in relation to her parents
sister: female sibling
dancer: a person who dances
friend: a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard
student: One who is enrolled or attends classes at a school, college, or university
athlete: a person trained or gifted in exercises or contests involving physical agility, stamina, strength; a participant in a sport, exercise, or game requiring physical skill
coach: a person who trains an athlete or a team of athletes
teacher:a person who teaches or instructs
lover: a person who has a romantic relationship with another
wife: a woman joined in marriage to a man
No where do I see the word "perfect" in any of these definitions, and yet I am very confident in each part of my life becauseI was/am extremely good at them and I've never questioned that one bit. SO WHY ON EARTH DO I TRY TO BE THE PERFECT MOTHER???? It doesn't exist and I know that. I am an educated woman and know there is no such thing as a perfect anything, so why am I so hard on myself the minute I bring another life into this world. I've always listened to my gut in the past and it's never done me wrong, so why can't I listen to it now with raising a child? Is it because I want him to be everything I was/am and more? Who knows? Why do I even question myself as to being a good mother when I have a husband who loves and supports me and tells me every day that I am an amazing mother and a son that is the happiest little boy I've ever seen. I just want everything to be perfect for my little peanut.
I am grateful of the my life and couldn't ask for anything more; I love being a mommy more than anything in the WORLD, and like Matt told me tonight....why question myself as a good mother when I get to see this face EVERY SECOND OF MY DAY!!!! When I walk into the room his face lights up brighter than everything I've every seen before, and that is how I know I'M A GOOD MOMMY!
6 comments:
You're right there is no such thing as perfection! It's unattainable, yet we strive for it as mothers because this 'miracle being' in front of us is just so perfect!
You are doing an amazing job in every aspect because you love him with every fiber in your being and he knows and feels that everyday of his life. That's all he needs. He needs lots of love and for your face to light up when he enters the room! He gets that everyday of his life! He is one lucky boy!!
Perfection is for the birds. lol.
xoxo
Rayna,
I love your blog! Love the bubbles...very FUN! From what I have read (on your blog), what I have seen, and heard...YOU are an AWESOME mommy! I don't think perfection is attainable...it's unrealistic! I know we all strive for it one one form or another. I am not a mommy yet, but I do understand where you are coming from! Alan is so cute, you can tell by the grin on hi face that he is one happy little boy! What a cutie he is! OMG! :o)
I SOOO remember feeling this EXACT same way when my babies were small...it's just that everything is so new, your baby is SOO dependent on you, and you are completely overwhelmed with love for this little soul. Nothing else matters.
The good news is that as he grows up a bit, you gain confidence day by day, month by month, year by year...until you finally feel like you have a grasp on this Mommy thing. The secret though, is that you had it all along...you just didn't know it. :) So the sooner you let yourself off the hook, and value yourself for the good mom you are, the better. :)
You are a good Mommy because you love your child. And he knows, really KNOWS, you love him. He FEELS LOVED. That's all he really needs.
You are doing an incredible job, and you are a GREAT MOM!!!
Rayna, my darling...you are doing a fabulous job. I will leave you with this (and I tell this to myself every day and it fills me with so much confidence!!!): There is NO one way to be a perfect parent...but there are a MILLION ways to be a great one ...and that is all that matters. I know you are adding to those million ways every day, and when it is all said and done, A.J. is gunna have one heck of a story to tell about his mommy who loves him!
Cheers to being a great mom in so many ways (holding up my invisible drink...we'll save the real one for next get-together which can't come too soon!) xoxo
The word PERFECT what a word! What is perfect anyway? Nothing is perfect and no one is perfect. And Perfect is viewed so differently by everyone.
You are a wonderful mother and an amazing mother and AJ is so lucky to have you as his mother. It breaks my heart when I see how hard you are on yourself. Please don't do that to yourself! ENJOY it and know that you are amazing and doing the best you know how to do and he is so happy and so loved.
So enjoy the summer with him and feed him table food and stuff his wittle face with pasta, eggs, and bread. He is so adorable and loveable so live a day at a time and enjoy it all!
What you are feeling is sooooo super normal because I actually think when we become pregnant, our brains go through this stage where we start questioning everything we do in realtion to our babies. Am i eating healthy enough food, should I lift my hands over my head (haha), "Oh no, that sneaky waitress snuck blue cheese crumbles into my salad!"...
Then, when you meet the little bundle of lovin' you are soooo overwhelmed by all the emotions you feel for this little thing that you worry about everything that could happen, might happen, and most likey will not happen. So NORMAL. Know what this means tho...YOUR A GREAT MOM! You care so much. I have seen you with him, you are amzing at loving him up.
Hey, if i were a baby looking for a mommy, I'd be your kid...lol
I am learning everyday...Perfection DOES NOT exist. Well, unless your looking at the little babies in our circle...those faces are Pure Perfection!!!!
xoxo
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